I’m 99% of the time extremely happy & optimistic but sometimes I’m just not. And today I feel like being honest about some things that I just can’t understand.
It’s also pretty hard for me to get personal or emotional on social media. I’d rather say nothing than saying too much. I sometimes feel like I need to protect my feelings, my private life and my problems from the outer world, which always seems like the right thing for me to do. Serious, personal stuff should not be discussed with 2.2 million people…
Anyways, lots of you have noticed that I look a little sad on my latest pictures, which is kind of crazy that you guys already know me so well that you can tell my feelings from Insta posts. And I am sad. I basically can’t stop my tears from falling. But that’s fine.. Everybody has ups & downs and “social media stars” are also sad from time to time, even if they choose to only show positive vibes. But it’s important to know that life is wonderful and you’re the one to choose to be happy.
It has nothing (!) to do with social media or my job. It’s about personal topics that I don’t want to talk about in detail but I would like you to understand & know why I might not be as happy or as active as you’re used to see me (at least at the moment). I’m trying my hardest though.. For every girl out there going though a hard time .. stay strong ♥︎ I can feel you
Another thing I really really really wanted to mention for such a long time is people treating others like objects. Instagram can be interpreted superficially, I’m aware of that and I can live with it because I know better. But I know that it could affect other girls out there which makes me want to talk about it.
So, I’m not a superficial person, and those who know me will agree. That’s why I cannot understand how people can talk in the comment sections like “oh she has a nice face but I hate her body haha” – “ugggh have you seen her sticky legs, so ugly” – “she’s just a stupid, mindless doll.” or “oh her boobs are way too small”.
How can you even DARE to say something like that? Who taught you to be mean to others? I’m glad that there aren’t lots of comments like this on my pictures & that I’m able to cope with those few ones. But I also know that not all girls can cope with body shaming and mean comments. It happens way too often on social media, in school or just girls gossiping about other girls (which I also don’t get). You should never shame yourself for being “too” something. We should start to appreciate our bodies & to like ourselves for who we are. If you’re unhappy with something and you know you can change it – then DO SO. Read a book about the issue, eat healthy, work out, study, or do something else that makes you feel better about it.
But I also learned that you shouldn’t bother about things you can’t change. It makes life so much easier if you learn to understand, that things you can’t change should be accepted and are not worth thinking about any longer.
This refers to simple things like standing in a traffic jam. Yes, you could get into a fuss because you’ll arrive late – but why? You can’t change the situation so why waste one negative thought about this issue? Stay calm and relax, you can’t change it. This refers to soooo many things in life, whether it comes to relationships or topics like body shaming. You feel like your thighs are naturally “too thick” or your boobies too small? Guess what, you can’t make your body fat go naturally into your boobs and you can’t change that your body is built that way. I know that my legs are maybe proportionally too thin but I’m fine with that because my body is built that way and I won’t start shaming the wonderful place I live in. So why feel bad about it? You will only stress yourself with a problem that is not even a real problem. Like who the hell cares if a tiny thing about your body isn’t perfect? Our flaws are what makes us beautiful and you should love yourself for what you are. And yes, your future boyfriend will also love everything about you, haha.
So girls, never ever shame yourself for being you. Beauty is not just in the face or body, beauty is a light in the heart. And please, use your brain & THINK before being mean to others.