STRONG IS THE NEW SKINNY

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Hey everyone <3 I started writing a column for a German magazine called "Handelsblatt" some time ago and decided to translate the columns into English & publish them up here! Tell me if you want me to continue doing this down below! xx


So, I’m sure by now everyone has heard of the fitness community’s new favorite motto „strong is the new skinny“. It basically means that it is now „in“ to be as fit and strong as possible and to have visible muscles even as a woman. Which is great - as you all probably know I myself train at the gym 4-5 times a week and my ultimate goal is to be strong, fit and healthy. If you’ve been following me you might also know that my recently published book has the title „Strong and  Beautiful“ - and that is still what I want to put across to my community. It is good to be strong and no woman should ever be scared of working out and gaining ‚too much muscle‘. However, there are still a lot of negative connotations going around when it comes to „strong is the new skinny“.

For a long time it was considered the ideal of beauty to be as skinny as possible. The trend was „size zero“ - and women tried hard to look like the supermodels you see on the catwalk or on the cover of magazines. The skinnier, the better. Within the last years „size zero“ has slowly given away to a new trend. Women today aren't trying to be as thin as possible anymore - they are striving to be fit, strong and even muscular. Being active, feeling strong, eating lots of healthy food instead of starving yourself in order to be certain size - that’s basically what „strong is the new skinny“ is trying to promote.

First of all I want to say that I do consider the new trend to be a positive development when it comes to beauty standards and body image. „Strong is the new skinny“ stands for a healthy lifestyle - if you strive to become strong and fit you will automatically have to include being active and eating well into your routine. Living an active lifestyle and eating well, working hard to reach certain athletic goals and to get stronger - there’s certainly nothing bad about that. Quite the contrary, it is scientifically proven that a healthy, balanced diet and an active lifestyle improve overall health and quality of life. Working out regularly and seeing you own progress can make you more confident and help with body-image issues. Many women, myself included, have profited from the „strong is the new skinny trend“. It has made them (and me) happier and more confident.

There is however an powerful argument against „strong is the new skinny“, something that is very often used by its critics. Many are saying that the former „size zero“ beauty standard has simply been replaced by a new standard - only that standard isn’t to be as thin as possible anymore, but to be as fit as possible. So, is there even a difference between „size zero" and „strong is the new skinny“? Don't they both describe ideals of beauty that women have to follow in order to feel beautiful and valuable?

In my opinion that is exactly what „strong is the new skinny“ shouldn’t do. No one should ever feel like they aren’t beautiful or worthy if they don’t look like a certain ideal that is portrayed in the media, on magazine covers or on social media. Doesn’t matter if the ideal is to be thin or to be strong. Of course - I definitely consider „strong is the new skinny“ to be the healthier trend, compared to starving yourself down to a certain clothing size. But still - it shouldn’t be a must, you should never ever feel like you aren’t good enough just because you don’t fall in to a certain category. In my eyes, the most important thing is to be happy and content with the way you live your life and the way you feel in your own body.Some people might achieve that feeling of happiness, self-confidence and content through working out and living a healthy life. And some don’t. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter how you chose to live your life - as long as you are happy and you feel comfortable in your own skin. Whether you’re a gym-fanatic who loves clean eating or you prefer not to work out and would rather carry a few more kilos - as long as you’re happy and content with yourself and your lifestyle, there’s no right or wrong.

And, on a sidenote: being strong can mean something different to everyone. You don’t need a sixpack to feel strong and you don’t have to be able to lift 60kg. You can feel strong in so many ways. Maybe you went running this morning and you noticed a little more endurance than the last time you tried. Maybe you’re finally able to carry your shopping up the stairs in one go. Or maybe you’ve finally overcome your fear to train in the „mens section“ at the gym (you know, where they usually lift the heavy weights). Feeling strong can also mean feeling comfortable within your body in a whole new way that you never knew before. There’s so much positive potential that can come from a trend like „strong is the new skinny“. The idea shouldn’t be to put women down and tell them what they should look like. But rather to show people that it’s a beautiful thing to feel good and strong within your body - regardless of the newest trend or beauty standard. How you achieve that feeling is totally up to you.

For me personally, working out is what gives me that feeling of content. I chose this path in order to feel comfortable in my skin. I like the self-confidence it has brought me, and I love feeling strong, building muscle and being able to lift a lot. And that is exactly what I want to share: that working out is a way to feel happier and more confident. It’s certainly not the only way - but it’s the path that I chose and that I’m passionate about. Still, we all have our own paths. What’s right for me might not work for everyone - and that’s okay. I love the fact that trends like „strong is the new skinny“ promote an active lifestyle - but that still doesn’t make it a necessity. At the end of the day you should follow the path that is right for you.


xx Pam

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MY LINGERIE COLLECTION

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Helllooo everyone <3 as HOPEFULLY all of you know I launched a lingerie collection in collaboration with Hunkemöller a couple of weeks ago. I’m soooo happy to see so many of you in the pieces I designed & I’m even more happy to hear that you love what I created with the Hunkemöller Team! I feel really honored to have had this possibility aaaand of course I’m also proud to finally see my lingerie in stores and online.

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blue push up bra BLUE BRAZILIAN RED LACE BODY


Till now I only showed you single items here and there on my Instagram.. but what would be a better option than giving you the whole overview here on my blog :)

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PADDED BRASATIN & LACE SLIP LACE thong


The color range includes a dusty pink color, a burgundy red and a soft blue. For the materials we went for lace, velvet and satin. The combination out of the 3 is really unique and I loooove how it turned out! Velvet is also a big fashion trend right now, so you can't go wrong with that.

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VELVET BRALETTEVELVET BRAZILIAN


What I love most about all the pieces is that they look super feminine and sexy while not being to daring.. and if you look closer they all have beautiful little details. For example cut outs, straps or little bows. The backside of the bottoms and bodies is also often fully out of lace :)

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LONGLINE BRABRAZILIANTHONG


As you can see for most sets, there are several options for the bottoms. Slips, Thongs, Brazilians and so on. Same goes for the bras. You can find Bralettes, Padded Bras and Push Up Bras. And of course a Body in each color way & one Homewear set in dusty pink. I hope that everyone can find something fitting to their body type! I know that can be a struggle with underwear haha.

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PUSH UP BRATHONG WITH STRAP BRAZILIAN WITH STRAP


On this picture you can also see the silver body chain that you can buy with my collection. It goes twice around the neck and has some longer chains around the body and in the front. You could also wear this on top of a white shirt!! Looks beautiful.

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SATIN TOP WITH LACE ⎪ CHIFFON SHORT


This is the Homewear Set in dusty pink. The Short is sooo cute and flirty! Definitely one of my favorite items out of the whole collection. It was already sold out directly after the launch - but now it's restocked <3

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VELVET BODY WITH LACE


The sizes go most of the times from XS/S to L/XL. For the bras we sometimes go up to an F cup :) I'm wearing size S for all bottoms & bodies and 70B for the bras. Aaand the prices go from 14,99€ till 41,99€.

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DUSTY PINK BRALETTETHONG WITH STRAPS


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LONGLINE BRABRAZILIAN IN DUSTY PINK


The collection is still available in stores & you can also shop it online on hunkemoller.com in Germany, Switzerland, UK, France, Netherlands, Belgium, Spain, Sweden, Denmark and Austria.

If you want me to like, repost or see your pictures don't forget to tag #PAMELAFORHKM <3

Have a lovely evening everyoneeee and thanks for all your support!

xx Pamela

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MISSION MORE - healthy snacking

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Happy Sunday everyoneeee :) today a quick blogpost in collaboration with foodist about the Mission More Snacks that I've shown you a couple of times on Insta Story & Snapchat <3

I've been working with the food online shop foodist.de for a long time now & they recently launched a own brand called "Mission More".

The Mission More Snacks are 100% natural, vegan, gluten free, dairy free and only consist out of dates, nuts and several superfoods. There were no sugar, additives or preservatives added!! There are also only 7 to 11 ingredients, depending on the flavor. So they are for sure completely natural, healthy & don't really count as a "cheat" :)

PS: on the package you can of course that they contain sugar, but that only comes form the dates and the other ingredients. A banana or an apple also has naturally sugar in it!

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You can get the Mission More Balls in 6 different flavors.

Peanut Butter Jelly, Apple Pie & Cookie Dough are the flavors that remind you of the typical "cheats". They were recreated as good as possible with natural and healthy ingredients. They also added natural pea and rice protein to those 3 flavors.

Coconut-Maca-Guarana, Chia-Cranberry-Lemon & Blueberry-Baobab are the other "classic" superfood flavors.

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Going more into detail regarding the ingredients: in "Peanut Butter Jelly" are for example only peanut butter, dates, coconut nectar, pea & rice protein, dried strawberries and peanuts :)

Coconut-Maca-Guarana consists out of dates, almond butter, coconut nectar, almonds, coconut flakes, maca & guarana.

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Why Mission More?

I would suggest it to everyone who's struggling with cravings between the main meals or to everyone who just needs snacks to survive haha. They are truly healthy and you can easily eat them on the go or if you're on a rush. The packages are reclosable, so you can just keep them in your bag without making a mess :) of course they don't taste like milk chocolate or cookie dough ice cream but I think as a healthy substitute they do a perfect job! They also fill you up really quickly, most of the times I don't even need more than 2 or 3 pieces (80-100 kcal).

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Where can I get them & how much are they?

You can order them in Europe on www.foodist.de/pamela and I'm also sharing some coupon codes for this website from time to time :) at the moment you can get a package with all 6 flavors for 9,95€ and with the code "Pamela15" you also get 15% off. A single package is 1,95€.

You can also buy them in a lot of Edeka, Rewe & Budniskowski stores.


Have a wonderful evening everyone!!

xx Pamela

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WHY I'VE BEEN MISSING

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Sometimes you got so much to say, so many thoughts on your mind and so many things going on that you don't know where to start and how to find the right words… And then you decide to just say nothing at all. That’s what I’ve done the last 6 months.

I also got so many projects going on that there’s always something to do. That’s why I kept postponing writing blogposts & doing some real talk on here. I know that this was not right & I’m honestly sorry for that..

So I’ve experienced tons of wonderful moments & lots of happiness during the last months. I also had tons of situations that I would have never seen myself in - in a bad way - during the time of not writing here. I kinda wanted to talk about it - but somehow I always found myself between those endless questions of sharing it to the world vs. keeping it silent. Because I know that if I’m writing to you - my community - I’m also letting this read people who don't wish me sth good, persons close to me who will wonder why I’m opening up on here & of course, the press. And I know that questions will appear in interviews..

That’s why I decided to say nothing at all and focus on other parts of my life, other projects and other tasks. But as we all know, not talking about something doesn't mean you forget about it.

PLUS I always gather myself up and realize that my problems could be worse. I’m living an extremely privileged life that I’m unbelievably thankful for! I wouldn't want to swap my life with anyone. I’m living my dream and exploring the world. Of course this also includes a certain level of luxury by now. I’m offered to stay in hotels that cost a fortune, I get upgraded to business class out of nowhere. I do not take this for granted and I definitely know where I come from. I feel like a happy little kid when something like this happens and I allow myself to enjoy it. That doesn't mean that I lost touch with reality or normality… just to put some bad comments straight :)


Back to my feelings (lol)… In the world of Instagram with all that happiness, positivity and beauty (which is also what Instagram is about) you still you have to allow yourself to not be so „strong“ from time to time. To burst out in tears and confront yourself with your problems and situations that put too much weight on your shoulders. I'm only 21 and I also struggle with topics like love, friendship and trust. People that you loved or trusted turn out to be or feel different & suddenly nothing's the same. We all know that pain... We can't change the behavior or feelings of somebody else & even though it might not make sense to us we have to keep our head high, swipe away the tears and learn to accept. And trust me, it hits you so hard when you’re traveling, being far away from your family. Looking up to the sky on a different continent, in complete silence and know that everybody else close to you is suddenly thousands of kilometers away. I think I heard every single Sam Smith & James Arthur song about 100 times haha. Those lyricsssss.. This is still something I don't feel super confident talking about on here. Even now I can’t even see the letters on the screen clearly because of the tears in my eyes haha. I guess you can relate .. <3


When I said „I found myself in situations that I never saw myself in“ earlier in my text I was referring to my job. As some of you know I split up from my management a couple of months ago because of personal issues between me & them. Management in my job is something really intense and close, you have to deal with it on a daily basis and therefore you can't just pretend something wouldn’t exist if you have issues. But sometimes in life your opinion doesn't match the one of the other side & the next day you find yourself in legal problems. Of course this shouldn't bring you down but I guess it’s clear that it still somehow matters because you have to spend your time dealing with it.

I guess I didn't say half of the stuff that was on my mind .. but at least I broke the silence on here. Let’s see how this will continue but I hope you understand that it can be hard to make everybody happy, to fulfill all of your tasks, struggle with „teenie“ problems, deal with the pressure of your job and still focus on yourself.


Life can be tough but remember, diamonds are made under pressure .. haha

Love you

Xx Pamela

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